Family Synergy - Frequently Asked Questions

Frequently Asked Questions

What are open relationships?

There are two major components to an open relationship:

First, the relationship is a contract which is based upon a continuing, open dialogue between the partners. All aspects of the relationship are subject to being redefined or renegotiated at any time. The relationship is dynamic, rather than static, and it reflects the changing needs and circumstances of the partners.

Second, the relationship is inclusive, rather than exclusive. This means that, in addition to the primary partners, other persons may be included in intimate and/or sexual activities. Interacting with others outside the primary relationship enriches the primary relationship.

How the notion of open relationships is played out varies considerably, and is a function of the contract between the primary partners.

Also see our list of Poly definitions .

Is Family Synergy for me?

To find out whether FS might be for you, please answer the following questions for yourself:

1. Are you comfortable sharing intimacy with people of diverse backgrounds?
2. Do you treat members of both genders as your equal?
3. Are you comfortable when people get close to you?
4. Are you comfortable with nudity among friends?
5. Are you comfortable saying "NO" when you feel it is in your best interest?
6. Can you enjoy social gatherings without needing alcohol or drugs?
7. Can you enjoy an intimate relationship without needing to control your partner?
8. Can you be non-judgmental about the practice of open relationships among your friends?
9. Can you talk to a potential sexual partner about safe sex?

If you can answer "yes" to the above questions then:

FS might be for you.

What kind of organization is Family Synergy?

Family Synergy is a Non-Profit Social Educational Club

Family Synergy is open to those over the age of 18 who are interested in the purposes of FS, are respectfuly tolerant of those whose lifestyles may be different from their own, and who have fulfilled the requirements for membership.

In order to become a member of FS, you must become a provisional member, attend two regularly scheduled events and receive an Orientation within a six month period.

Our activity calendar includes educational speakers on topics of interest to our members, Sunday brunches, massages, theater outings, game nights, and Parties, to name a few.

To attend an event or apply for provisional membership please fill out and mail the Provisional Membership Application

What is the Family Synergy membership like?

Currently (10/98) FS has over 200 full, life, subscribing or provisional members. Approximately 2/3 are male and 1/3 female. An estimated 60% are currently involved in committed relationship(s). Our ages are: 10% under 40 and 50% over 60.

What are the parties like?

Parties are the highlight of our monthly calendar. We try to have at least one party each month. Most are held in the homes of Family Synergy members and may be either adult or non-permissive. Adult means that sex is permitted on premises at that party. It DOES NOT mean that sex is expected or required. Typically a certain area of the house will be designated as the "permissive area." Of course, that would usually be the area of the house where the bedrooms are. When an adult party is announced in our monthly newsletter, the arrangements regarding when and/or where the permissive areas are will be described in the write-up. One should not encounter any surprises regarding permissiveness when one arrives at an adult party. We have written guidelines regarding acceptable behavior at adult parties which are reviewed at the New Member's orientation. While many of our members do enjoy participating in permissive activities, a significant number choose not to do so. However, most of the latter do attend adult parties, remaining in the non-permissive areas and having a great time.